Saturday, 24 July 2010


I know lots of bloggers cover this, but it is quite a vital topic - the dos and don'ts of dating with arthritis.

So, I went on a date last night for the first time since my diagnosis. It was a blind date, which weirdly I would never have done before RA. The last few months since I stopped wallowing in depression I've gone the opposite way by doing EVERYTHING I want, ALL THE TIME. I'm just afraid that the clock is ticking and I won't be able to do things soon, so I've gone a bit mad basically. I spend lots of money because I don't care about 'planning for the future' anymore, I've been on about 3 holidays already this year and now apparently I go on blind dates with strangers. I wonder what's next?! Must be some weird stage of grief I'm going through..but it is better than crying every day which I used to do. Anyway, I digress.

The date actually went really well, we went to a few pubs and got VERY drunk. I was actually drunk before I even got there because I was really nervous, I couldn't finish my dinner and drank half a bottle of wine.

I think we might see each other again, so here come the problems. When do I drop the RA bomb? "Yes, I might be the fun lovin gal you're looking for, but how do you feel about my fun disability?"

I know that if the person is decent, they won't care about things like that. But it's still kind of a weird issue, if you mention it too early it might be a bit too 'serious' but if you leave it too late then it's like you're hiding it? I guess I'll just wait and see, leave it a few dates, see if it's actually going anywhere and then drop it in casually.

My date: "I have two cats."
Me: "How interesting. I have a chronic progressive wasting disease."


  1. No dating advice as I have been married a very long time. Just wanted to let you know that I really enjoy reading your blog and reading it this morning made me smile. :)

  2. Thanks Cathy, glad to hear that!! I enjoy writing it, even if it is pretty silly sometimes, but my whole life is silly and I'm trying not to let RA change that. Hope you're getting all the support you need from your husband, the pics of your family look beautiful :)

  3. Yep, you sound like me- both on the not knowing when to disclose and the having too much to drink on the date BEFORE it starts. Ha ha. I wish I knew what to tell you on when- it varies for me from guy to guy. Just wait until YOU"RE ready and then you'll find a way to sneak it into the conversation.