I know lots of bloggers cover this, but it is quite a vital topic - the dos and don'ts of dating with arthritis.
So, I went on a date last night for the first time since my diagnosis. It was a blind date, which weirdly I would never have done before RA. The last few months since I stopped wallowing in depression I've gone the opposite way by doing EVERYTHING I want, ALL THE TIME. I'm just afraid that the clock is ticking and I won't be able to do things soon, so I've gone a bit mad basically. I spend lots of money because I don't care about 'planning for the future' anymore, I've been on about 3 holidays already this year and now apparently I go on blind dates with strangers. I wonder what's next?! Must be some weird stage of grief I'm going through..but it is better than crying every day which I used to do. Anyway, I digress.
The date actually went really well, we went to a few pubs and got VERY drunk. I was actually drunk before I even got there because I was really nervous, I couldn't finish my dinner and drank half a bottle of wine.
I think we might see each other again, so here come the problems. When do I drop the RA bomb? "Yes, I might be the fun lovin gal you're looking for, but how do you feel about my fun disability?"
I know that if the person is decent, they won't care about things like that. But it's still kind of a weird issue, if you mention it too early it might be a bit too 'serious' but if you leave it too late then it's like you're hiding it? I guess I'll just wait and see, leave it a few dates, see if it's actually going anywhere and then drop it in casually.
My date: "I have two cats."
Me: "How interesting. I have a chronic progressive wasting disease."